Building a Strong Bond with Your Child: Insights from ‘How to Really Love Your Child’ by Dr. Ross Campbell

As the school year starts, life can feel especially stressful for families. Increased work demands, children adjusting to new routines, and the general busyness of daily life can make it hard to find moments of true connection. Helping your child feel seen and valued is one of the best ways to support their emotional well-being and ease school-year stress.

I have found Dr. Ross Campbell’s insights on how to bond with a child very helpful. Here are a few tips from his book, How to Really Love Your Child:

1. Take time for physical touch before and after school

You know how your child best receives affection. Are they not big on hugging? Try a high five to say goodbye. Do they struggle to separate from you and cling before school? Set aside 5–10 minutes for hugs, kisses, and eye contact before heading out the door. Small, consistent gestures like this communicate love and security.

2. Put away phones and other distractions after school

Most parents know this intuitively, but it can be challenging to remember in the moment. Even a short check-in of 5–10 minutes can make a difference for younger children. For older children or teens, schedule a weekly activity together to spend undistracted time. Remember: children may not always share openly. Focus on being present and showing that you enjoy spending time with them, rather than the quantity of conversation.

3. Notice and encourage your child’s strengths

School can sometimes trigger feelings of insecurity or self-doubt. As parents, we know every child has unique strengths. Take time to notice where your child excels—whether academically, socially, or creatively—and praise their effort. Recognizing their achievements helps build confidence and reinforces your bond.

Life may still be busy, but taking consistent moments to notice and care for your child helps them develop confidence and emotional resilience over the long term.

If you’d like more strategies for connecting with your child or support navigating school-year stress, I offer personalized counseling for children and families to help your child thrive and strengthen your relationship.